How To Tell Your Family You're Eloping
You and your partner have decided to elope and you’re over the MOON! Now what? Do you or do you not tell family and friends about this decision, and more importantly — how? If you’re not looking forward to sharing the news or if you just don’t know how, I’ve got a few tips for how to tell your family you’re eloping.
First things first, tell those who are most important to you!
Whether that's Mom and Dad, your siblings, cousins, or best friends, whoever it is they’ll want to hear it directly from you! It’s not uncommon for family members to ask questions like “why are you eloping when you could have a big wedding?!” They may be bummed out that they won’t be there for the big day, but make sure they know how important they are to you and that they still mean the world to you.
Involve them in your elopement day preparations
Imagine how special your nearest and dearest will feel if you let them help dream up and imagine what your day will look like. Who knows, they may have the BEST ideas for you! After all, they do know you best! Another great way to involve your friends and family in the big day is by allowing them to join a video call for the ceremony, or letting them help you plan and scout locations! Another fantastic way to keep your loved ones involved but maybe keep the “I Do” to just you and your partner would be to invite them to a special dinner or celebration after the elopement. Your favorite people love you and want to be there for you for this important moment, whatever that looks like to you! Even if they won’t be physically present, your loved ones will always appreciate being included in some way. For a few ideas, check out How To Involve Your Family In Your Elopement on the blog!
Save the big news for after the ceremony
Deciding to elope always brings plenty of excitement, but what comes next? If you’re nervous about how your family and friends may react to your decision to elope, maybe telling them AFTER you have eloped is the way to go. If you’re wondering how to go about doing this, I recommend setting up a time to have a sit down conversation with them to communicate all the details of your day.
No one wants to hear about their family members' wedding second-hand, so here are some fun ways to make sure they still feel like you were thinking of them!
Consider surprising family by including personal touches that remind you of them in your bouquet or wedding details.
Write your loved ones a note the day of your elopement to tell them exactly what is going through your mind and how excited you are to share all of the details soon!
As we all know, pictures tell a thousand words. If your family is disappointed that they weren’t present for your elopement, their frustrations are sure to melt away the second they see that smile on your face as you’re marrying the love of your life!
If you’ve chosen to elope, I’m willing to bet you’re absolutely thrilled! It was a decision you and your partner made for yourselves and is a permanent part of your unique love story. Now it’s time to spread that joy to your family and friends! Being just as excited to tell your family about your elopement as you were making the decision is sure to ease any feelings of stress. They will pick up on your contagious happiness and will be begging you for more details.
No matter what your relationship with friends and family may look like, telling your family you’re eloping may be a tough conversation to navigate. Just know that they’re going to love you no matter what! So what do you say, are you ready to elope!? Reach out to start planning your Mt Hood elopement!
